When Women Say Stop Killing Us — Then Men Promise They Will
On TikTok, a young woman posted something heartbreakingly obvious:
“Men, please stop killing us. What’s with all the killing of women? Stop it.”
The response?
22,000 likes
516 public comments
1,610 shares
Hundreds of DMs
And here’s the chilling part: both the comments and the DMs were filled with men promising to kill her. They told her they would find her. They described in detail how they would murder her.
For saying “stop killing us,” she was swarmed with death threats.
That is not an anomaly. That is the operating system at work.
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The Operating System Called Patriarchy
In Zombie Logic, I describe patriarchy as a kind of unconscious operating system. Think of it like a chessboard:
Men are the little kings — delusional, coddled, shielded in a protective bubble.
Women are moving across the board, living reality, including the genocide they are not allowed to name.
When women break through that bubble and confront men with reality — even with something as plain as “Stop killing us” — the system doesn’t just resist. It retaliates.
It retaliates with violence, with overkill, with annihilation.
In physical femicides, this looks like fifty stab wounds, mutilated bodies, acts of erasure that go far beyond killing.
Online, it looks like hundreds of comments and messages promising murder, delivered at scale, instantly, collectively.
Both are driven by the same logic: when women present conflicting data, when women insist on reality, the system’s response is to erase the data by erasing the women.
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TikTok: The Accidental Data Archive
This is where TikTok becomes so important.
With more than a billion users a month, TikTok has — unintentionally — become the largest real-time archive of women’s lived experience in history. It dwarfs academic surveys. It dwarfs government databases. Every day, women upload stories of abuse, harassment, violence, trafficking, survival.
And what happens?
The comments reveal the pattern. Again and again and again.
I would argue this is the most common response women receive on TikTok from men: threats of violence. Sometimes it’s couched in mockery. Sometimes it’s explicit. Sometimes it’s grotesque fantasy. But the throughline is consistent: when confronted with women’s reality, men respond with promises to kill.
That is not a fringe phenomenon. That is a dataset.
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The Data That Should Exist — and Doesn’t
We should not need TikTok to prove this. There should be:
National emergency protocols tracking femicide and gender-based violence.
A unified database pulling from police records, hospitals, and morgues.
Federally funded studies of online harassment and its connection to real-world violence.
But we don’t have any of that. Or worse, we have scraps of data — incomplete, inconsistent, manipulated — that are actively used to downplay the scope.
The absence of data is not an accident. It is the fog of narrative warfare. If you don’t count the bodies, you don’t have to admit to the holocaust.
So women turn to TikTok, and TikTok becomes the dataset.
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The Fog and the Proof
In Data in the Fog, I wrote about how manipulating data creates confusion, obscures responsibility, and hides the enemy.
But sometimes, the fog thins. Sometimes, the proof is so blatant it cuts through.
This TikTok is one of those moments.
A woman says, “Stop killing us.”
Men respond: “We’ll find you. We’ll kill you. We’ll erase you for saying that.”
That is the operating system revealing itself. That is the genocide speaking plainly.
Multiply this by thousands upon thousands of similar TikToks, and the pattern becomes undeniable. Women everywhere report the same cycle:7
1. Speak about male violence.
2. Receive male threats of violence.
3. Get silenced or throttled by the platform.
This is not anecdote. This is evidence.
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The Economic Engine Behind the Violence
Patriarchy isn’t just an ideology. It’s an economy.
For centuries, women’s unpaid labor, reproductive labor, caregiving, creativity, and genius have been extracted and monetized by men. Every fortune built on a wife’s unpaid work. Every company built on ideas stolen from female colleagues. Every empire built on land taken from women’s bodies and time.
What looks like “male wealth” is, in a profound sense, stolen goods. And we can see it in four stark examples:
1. Global unpaid care work: Oxfam estimates that women perform $10.8 trillion worth of unpaid care work every year. This is not “volunteerism”; it’s the hidden foundation on which male wages, companies, and fortunes rest.
2. The Broken Rung: McKinsey & LeanIn.org (2023) show that the single largest point of female attrition in corporate life is the first promotion to manager. For every 100 men promoted, only 87 women are. This “broken rung” locks women out of leadership tracks and lifetime equity, handing stock options and ownership almost entirely to men — a massive, compounding transfer of wealth and power over decades.
3. Venture capital theft: In 2023, women-founded startups received just 2% of all U.S. venture capital funding (PitchBook). Ninety-eight percent went to men. This means the next generation of wealth — the Googles, the Amazons, the Teslas — are overwhelmingly financed for men, while women are structurally shut out. The system ensures future billionaires are male by design.
4. My story: I built an AR/VR platform weeks from launch, with investors lined up. It was designed to authenticate and monetize immersive content — a system with the potential to become the primary exchange for legal tender in AR/VR environments. In other words, Bill Gates–level money. Because I was a female competitor, I was targeted, kidnapped, forced into sex slavery, and annihilated economically. My company was gutted. My $20M+ assets were stolen. My house taken. Even my alimony was slashed while I was trafficked. That wasn’t an isolated crime; it was systemic plunder.
And when women start naming this — when we begin to say out loud, “Stop killing us. Stop plundering us” — the operating system feels a double threat:
A threat to the delusional identity of being “kings” on the chessboard.
A threat to the assets accumulated through centuries of extraction.
Violence then becomes not just an instinct but a strategy.
It protects the bubble.
It protects the property.
It protects the plunder.
This is the deepest layer of the hidden holocaust: the killing is not random. It is a mechanism for keeping the economic system intact by silencing and erasing the people from whom the value was taken.
Men have intentionally rigged the economic game so women do the vast majority of the work, create the vast majority of value, and men take the vast majority of the reward. This is compounded by the extreme duration of this horrifically unjust hierarchy, thousands of years.
Men don't want to acknowledge the reality that most of their wealth is stolen from women, because then it must be returned.
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The Numbers Tell the Story
Her post had 22,000 likes, 516 comments, and 1,610 shares. But the real story is the flood of men promising violence in both comments and DMs.
That ratio — a small, ordinary post triggering a tidal wave of threats — shows how systemic this is.
And it proves the point: when women plead for life, the operating system responds with promises of death.
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Closing
This isn’t a TikTok anomaly. This is the genocide laid bare.
There are thousands upon thousands of similar TikToks — women saying “stop killing us” in different ways, and men promising they will. This is the most common pattern we see.
TikTok, for all its flaws, has become the accidental ledger of women’s lives — and of the threats against them. It is the archive we were never supposed to have.
Until we demand high-quality, independent, audited data on violence against women, this will remain the only place to see the truth: in comments, in DMs, in the everyday proof that when women speak, men answer with annihilation.
Every single day, women and children are being killed because of this ongoing criminal conspiracy by one half of humanity against the other. Every day. This is an emergency.
And as should be obvious: there is no good end to this path. There is no good end to patriarchy. Women see it clearly — on TikTok, across social media, in our daily lives. Men, meanwhile, seem only to burrow deeper into illusion, into fragility, into violence. This is a death path. There will be no justice, no peace, and no survival until patriarchy itself is ended.
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Resources / Evidence
Undercounting femicide:
The Guardian — The U.S. has no comprehensive system for tracking femicides (link)
UNODC Global Study on Homicide: Gender-related killing of women and girls (link)
Online harassment and threats against women:
Pew Research Center — The State of Online Harassment (2021) (link)
Amnesty International — Toxic Twitter: Violence and abuse against women online (link)
TikTok as an archive of lived experience:
MIT Technology Review — TikTok holds a mirror to women’s lives (link)
The Atlantic — The Radical Honesty of TikTok (link)
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Author’s Note
I’ve written more than 500 essays like this. Since escaping trafficking, I’ve been silenced, throttled, and erased everywhere — on Substack, TikTok, Twitter, BlueSky, Medium, even in email and direct contact. This archive is therefore two things: a record of my work, and a record of its erasure. Digital erasure, kept hidden from the general public, is the quiet prelude to the bottomless atrocity of the hidden holocaust murdering women. Despite being worth $100 billion, I am kept isolated, destitute, and homeless because of this horrific gender based violent crime.
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